I retraced my steps of how I was before, and how I am now. Found what I was doing DIFFERENT started doing JUST THAT. Completely eliminating the things I did before. Like Magic What happened next blew me away. People IMMEDIATELY started responding to me how they would with Em and those other guys. I didn’t believe what was happening. They told me I had a certain “Power and Authority” about me. I consciously knew what I was doing right this time…so I applied it with completely different groups again and again.
And that’s when I started getting consistent results. Seeing the TREMENDOUS leap from being the guy just part of the group to the guy who suddenly became popular I wanted to see if I can teach others to do the same.
It All Started To Make Sense I started to see what I did wrong all my life. What others really thought of introverted men. I was getting more and more comfortable in social environments. The Discovery That Changed My Life And I came to a realization… “It doesn’t matter how hard you try…you can’t learn how to become socially savvy if you’re on the receiving end of social disapproval.” Unless you’re INVITED in by those groups you’re never going to figure out how to be successful like them…the puzzle pieces are never going to fit together.
More than likely that’s the theme and topic that people are most interested in. Use those topics in your conversation and you INSTANTLY have something that others will pay attention to.
When we don’t have conversations others can’t figure us out, they don’t trust us because they don’t know what we’re about.
You already know that not knowing what to talk about can kill your interaction with others. But… Do you think CONVERSATION has a direct connection between popularity and likability? I think it does… When You Don't Know How To Keep Conversations Going It Can Creep Others Out.
I went home and thought back on my life. From the people I knew, to the routines that I was living to where I’d be ten years from now. I was sad, pissed-off, and angry That was the tipping point for me… This Is Not Where I Wana Be In My Life I decided I’d do ANYTHING to get out.
What Do You Talk About? Have you seen how popular mainstream music artists are? What makes them so popular? What makes them so desirable? Why do you think there isn’t any hit music video about a guy reading the newspaper? Or watching TV? Right! It’s BORING.
Here's a hint... Music videos show a life people wish they had, away from the mundane. Away from work, family, responsibilities etc… It’s something that’s only available during the weekends…that WEEKEND life.
Most people go into interactions expecting the other person to say something “Sooo…what’s up?” And because this person has nothing to add they are considered weird by others.
"I Had No Friends" My mother picked out my clothes and made sure it DIDN’T fit in with the mainstream crowd…because if it did in her words I’d become ‘corrupt’.
Try it. What I Was Persuaded To Do The more I taught this stuff to my friends the more they pressured me to write a book about it.
How It Worked For Others I decided to take one or two techniques I used and teach it to others. In a moment I’m going to give you one of those techniques. I wanted to see if it would do anything for them. And it did! They were getting the same results I was. The realization kicked in that I “Stumbled” onto something very interesting that no one else knew about.
And I FAILED over and over again but it didn’t matter to me. I just went home at night, recuperated, and went on about it next day. By Chance I Came Across... Sometime after I came across a guy nicknamed Em. I’ve never ran into anyone with an air of POWER, CONFIDENCE and SOCIAL PERSOANLITY that he had. He had women CHASING him all over the place and people from years ago still calling him back. And I have a feeling he somehow knew I had trouble fitting in. The gist of it is he invited me to hang out with his group and we became good friends. His circle turned out amazing and they helped me with some of my social challenges. It slowly started to click for me. Over time I found several other guys like Em who I consider some of the BEST IN THE WORLD, (It was NOT easy with these guys and it took YEARS finding them) and hung out with them.
How much lower can I go than this? I lost my inhibition, thought of nothing else. Pretty much bootstrapped and tried making friends, getting to know more people, I tried getting invited to events, I tried standing up to bullies.
After getting numerous requests again and again I gave in… I’ve finally put together what is arguably the most complete educational product on the planet for DRAMATICALLY increasing your success in the social arena into an ebook I named “Secrets To Becoming Socially Savvy & How To Attract 10x More Friends.” It’s a co[...].